I wasn’t expecting my spiritual mentor to die when he did.
It came as a complete shock. One minute he was here, and the next minute he was gone.
His name was Dr. Afolabi Epega. He was a round, jovial Nigerian man. That’s him in this photo.
He was fifth-generation Ifa diviner, and he was also a scientist with a PhD in organic chemistry.
Baba Epega made us laugh and he made us think. He had no fear of death because Spirit lives on forever, he said.
He taught me so many spiritual lessons before he died in 2006.
I’ll never forget what he said about keeping our doors open. I think about it every day.
He never understood why people fight so hard to stay in toxic, or dead relationships. He felt we should open our doors and let folks go.
“You can’t love people by force,” Baba said. “Open your doors.”
And that’s what I want you to meditate on today. Maybe it’s time to reflect on folks in your circle and open your doors.
And maybe it would be wise to ask yourself if it’s really worth hanging on to every single relationship.
This is what I’ve been doing. I’ve been cutting folks loose left and right.
I’m being a bit dramatic:) lol.
The cutting hasn’t been so deep but let me assure you that I have been opening my doors.
And I’m not looking back…
I’ve learned to say goodbye and I’m at peace with it.
Here’s the thing. If a relationship or friendship is draining your energy you won’t have the energy to focus on your vision, and you won’t even be able to relax.
Trust me, you need all the energy and joy you can get. We’re in the last quarter of 2023 and 2024 will soon be here.
You can’t move forward with a distracted mind. So let the distractions go. It’s time to elevate mind, body and soul.
Open some doors. You will be happy you did. Let me know if you are on board with this.
James
I was a guest on a podcast called The Conscious Consultant recently
I spoke about my spiritual journey and the forces of adversity that led me to my purpose.
Near the end of our interview, the host asked how I feel about the global challenges we face: climate change, political unrest, endless wars — you name it.
He wanted to know if I feel optimistic or pessimistic.
I told him I’m an optimist. Straight up! That’s my truth and I’m sticking to it.
Of course, the world is in turmoil. But think about it. Was there ever a time in history when the earth was without crisis?
Every spiritual tradition teaches the metaphysical truth that where there is darkness, there must also be light. I believe everything eventually balances out. If there are no challenges, there can be no growth.
During my Ifa divination training, my mentor, the late Afolabi Epega, said we must look for something good in every situation we find ourselves in. “Nothing is perfectly good,” he said, “and nothing is perfectly bad.”
Here’s what I choose to focus on instead:
1. Every day on planet earth, I know some people go out of their way to help others.
2. Every day on planet earth, someone, somewhere experiences some kind of spiritual transformation.
3. Every day on our planet, babies are born, and new poems, songs, dances are created.
4. Every day on our planet, someone, somewhere falls in love.
5. Every day, someone, somewhere wakes up to their own power and decides to take it back.
So, despite the global challenges, I’m looking forward to who I can become and who I can impact. I’m excited. I’m just getting started. I know magical things happen to someone, somewhere every day.
Magical things can happen to you.
Be open to transformation and be open to blessings that are coming your way.
I’ll be checking on you more often. Feel free to reach out anytime.
Looking forward to hearing what your goals are and how you plan to achieve them.
And it doesn’t mean things won’t work out in the end.
Stay on the path; keep taking one step forward every day. Think about how far you’ve come, and what you’ve learned along the way.
I was sharing this wisdom with a client recently, but I also feel inspired to share it with you.
In my client’s case, she’s a bit frustrated because she’s been trying to buy a house for the past year, but she’s been having so many challenges.
“Why do I have to fight for everything that comes to me?” she asked a few weeks ago.
I understand how she feels; I advised her not to take the setbacks personally.
Even though I don’t know exactly what you’re going through, I know this.
1. Most goals take longer than planned. I can’t think of a single goal I’ve achieved that happened in the time frame I envisioned.
2. Everyone is being tested in some way. You might not think others are being tested, but I can assure you they are. Most people will not admit what they are going through and the tremendous pressure they feel.
3. Adversity is necessary for our growth. If things come easily, our soul doesn’t get a chance to grow. We also don’t get a chance to discover our strengths and weaknesses.
I have full confidence my client will be successful buying a home. It’s just a matter of time. In fact, she texted me this morning to say “the bank accepted my original offer. It’s step forward.”
“Beautiful,” I said.
I’m happy for her. I’m also excited to hear what blessings might manifest for you if you stay on your path.
Don’t give up! Don’t get discouraged.
In time I pray the doors will open for you.
I’m here to support you. Feel free to write and I will respond as soon as I can.
That’s the text I received from one of my clients while I was out taking a walk today.
“He’s growing fast. He’s three pounds already. He’s very healthy and active,” said my client who’s seven months pregnant.
I smiled. It’s great news.
It was gratifying for me because I did a spiritual reading for my client about four years ago, and I told her she would be having a baby.
In fact, pregnancy came up for my client in several readings I did for her over the years. Since I started doing readings more than ten years ago, at least 12 women have delivered babies.
I love sharing in the joy of my clients. I also love supporting clients through rocky times.
My client isn’t the only one that’s about to begin a new chapter. My journey has taught me there’s so many chapters ahead of us.
Your soul is eternal. The journey you’re on has no end. So many things are possible for you.
While my client welcomes her newborn baby, who knows, you might receive news of a new job, a new promotion, a new relationship. Maybe a business opportunity will come your way.
Maybe you will have a spiritual transformation, or maybe your marriage will improve for the better. Who knows?
Of course, new chapters come with new challenges.
But guess what, beautiful things can come out of your challenges. Open the door. Don’t be afraid to walk through it.
Your soul is ready for an opportunity to evolve; it can be fun and exciting and terrifying all at the same time. But go for it.
This is all for now.
Would love to hear about any new chapters in your life.
